Do you sometimes struggle with using healthy boundaries for yourself in your relationships with your partner, boss, friends, or family?

Boundaries are limits and rules we set for ourselves by saying “no” and still being able to open up and be vulnerable in intimacy and close relationships. No one should be telling you what your boundaries should be, only you can make that decision.  Boundaries can vary in different relationships but they are based on your values and the rules you set up for yourself for healthy relationships.

When you spend too much time worrying about what others expect of you and never get your things done, your boundaries are out of line. You can make yourself miserable spending your time always making everyone else happy. Guess what, you can never make everyone happy. You are the only one who will take care of you and you have to ensure you do that. You are responsible for your behaviors and not for someone’s behaviors or responses including when you say no.

Do not feel guilty when you don’t want to do something. You get to choose what you want to do,  you are a free agent. Freedom is yours to do what you want with. You practice self-care and self-respect by taking care of your needs and yourself always. When you are practicing healthy boundaries, it will show, and you will give to others out of an abundance because you love, value, and respect yourself and it shows.